[231116] 나쁜 남자’에게 끌리는 여자들 심리

 
[윤희영의 News English] ‘나쁜 남자’에게 끌리는 여자들 심리
 
 

여자들은 ‘나쁜 남자’를 좋아한다는 속설이 있다. 더 매력적으로 보인단다. 화학적 반응이자 본능적 현상이다. 짧은 기간 어설픈 연애에서나 일어나는 심리적 착시 현상이라고 한다.
We have a vulgar belief that women like ‘bad guys.’ Look more attractive. This is a chemical reaction and instinctive phenomenon. We call it psychological optical illusion in short-term sloppy fling.
 
국제학술지 ‘Evolutionary Psychological Science’ 보고서에 따르면, 47국 18~40세 여성 1304명을 조사한 결과, 대다수가 거칠고, 위험해 보이고, 쉽게 손에 잡히지 않는 남자를 유혹적이고 매력적으로 느끼는 것으로 나타났다. 간단히 말해서, 당장 이해하기 힘든 불가측성이 되레 신비하고 섹시해 보인다는 것이다.
According to the report by the international academic journal ‘Evolutionary Psychological Science’, a survey result of 1,304 women aged 18 to 40 from 47 countries indicated that the majority feel men who looked tough, dangerous, and not easily attainable to be intriguing and inviting. In a nutshell, the unpredictability, which means difficult to immediately understand, seems rather mysterious and sexy.
 
삶의 이치를 미처 깨닫지 못해 어쭙잖게 어깨에 힘주고 공연히 험한 인상 쓰는 건 데, 오히려 그런 유치한 허세가 마냥 순진한 미소만 짓는 착한 남자보다 더 관심을 끈다고 한다.
Not grasping the ways of the world, so awkwardly act high and mighty, and give a menacing look, but rather, those childish bravado draws more attention than a nice guy who just smiles innocently.
 
여성들은 ‘나쁜 남자’를 자신이 바꿀 수 있다는 부질없는 신념을 품는다. 그 안에는 분명히 ‘좋은 남자’가 들어있을 거라는 허황한 믿음이 합리적 판단을 흐트러뜨린다. 진심으로 챙겨주는 여자를 만나면 반드시 개과천선할 측은한 남자라며 자신이 그 성취감을 느끼려 한다.
Women harbor a futile belief that they can change the ‘bad buys.’ The hollow belief that there must be a ‘good guy’ in it disturbs their rational judgement. Saying like he is a pitiful guy who must turn over a new leaf when he meets a woman who truly cares for, so that they try to feel that sense of accomplishment.
 
‘나쁜 남자’는 흔히 세 가지 부정적 성격 특성을 보인다. 특권 의식과 자기 망상에 빠진 나르시시즘, 수단·방법 가리지 않고 남을 착취하려는 마키아벨리즘, 반사회적·충동적 행동을 일삼는 사이코패스 기질이다.
‘Bad buys’ often display the dark triad personalities: Narcissism, a sense of entitlement and self-delusion, Machiavellianism, which seeks to exploit others by any means necessary, and Psychopathic trait, characterized by antisocial and impulsive behavior.
 
그걸 남성적 매력으로 착각하고, 그 수컷의 정자를 받고 싶다는 동물적 생식 본능을 느낀다. 요조숙녀가 돼야 한다는 ‘good girl’ 강박관념에서 벗어나 마음대로 해보고 싶은 가슴속 반역자의 일탈에 동조하며, ‘나쁜 남자’를 통해 대리 만족을 얻으려 한다.
Women mistake it for masculine charm, and feel animalistic reproductive instinct to receive the male’s sperm. Through a ‘bad guy’, women sympathize with deviance of the rebel in their deep hearts who want to break away from the ‘good girl’ obsession of becoming a chaste and modest lady and want to let themselves loose, and try to get vicarious satisfaction from him.
 
착한 남자는 꼴찌한다 라는 속설도 있다. ‘나쁜 놈’에게 치일 수밖에 없다. 하지만 제 버릇 개 못 준다고 했다. 결국엔 착한 남자 진가를 알아보게 돼 있다
There is also a common saying, ‘Nice guys finish last.’ They have no choice but to getting hit by a ‘bad guy’. However, you cannot make a crab walk straight. At the end of the day, you come to appreciate a good man. “He who laughs last laughs best/loudest/longest.”
 
[Reference]:
https://www.chosun.com/opinion/specialist_column/2023/11/16/JNEZXBCKQ5ALLMQIJERFEO6C2M/?utm_source=naver&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=naver-news
 
 
[영문 참고자료 사이트]
☞ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/our-empathic-nature/202306/why-do-women-go-for-bad-boys
☞ https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a32314885/dating-bad-boys/
☞ https://nairobinews.nation.africa/bad-boy-qualities-that-make-women-fall-in-love/
☞ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-12724741/Women-really-love-bad-boys-Ladies-think-men-risks-attractive-short-term-flings-study-finds.html

 
 
 
 
*** 선호하다, 좋아하는 경향이 있다, 좋아하다, 취향이 있다.
 
Although Jane dresses up for work, she prefers wearing sweatshirts around the house.
I prefer to work to a deadline.
*prefer -ing/to, like-ing/to
 
He had a taste for esoteric travel and egregious enterprise.
 
He has expensive sartorial tastes.
 
You have awesome taste in music.
 
Would you prefer me to stay?
 
Intuitive people tend to engage in painting, writing poetry.
They tend to prefer blue to green.
 
 
*** Take care of / care for / care about / look after

 

 
 (vulgar belief) (look more attractive) (chemical reaction) (instinctive phenomenon) (short-term sloppy fling) (psychological optical illusion)
(in a nutshell)(simply put) (be intriguing and inviting) (unpredictability)
(grasp the ways of the world) (awkwardly act high and mighty) (give a menacing look) (childish bravado) (draw more attention)
(harbor a futile belief) (hollow belief) (disturb their rational judgment) (turn over a new leaf)
(display the dark triad) (sense of entitlement and self-delusion)

(exploit others by any means necessary) (antisocial and impulsive behavior)
(mistake it for masculine charm) (animalistic reproductive instinct) (chaste and modest lady) (let themselves loose) (sympathize with the deviance of the rebel) (vicarious satisfaction)
(You cannot make a crab walk straight)
‘Nice guys finish last
“He who laughs last laughs best/loudest/longest.”